While we're on this gift giving topic (see last post), let's just acknowlege what we all know: We already have too much stuff. If this is your lament, here are some ideas to consider:
1. GIVE EXPERIENCES, NOT THINGS. Gift cards, tickets to a play or sporting event, or a spa treatment all fit into this category.
2. GIVE TO CHARITY IN RECIPIENTS' NAMES. Give to a cause that matters to the recipients, rather than you. For example, my sister and her family are very involved in their church. Though I haven't done it yet, I always think about buying a cow or chicks or bunnies in their name for a family in need through Heifer International (http://www.heifer.org/).
3. GIVE TO THOSE IN NEED: Rather than exchanging gifts among your friends and/or family, adopt a family and buy for those in need. A women's group I belong to does this each year. These families are really in need, evidenced by neccesities, not wants, on their wish lists.
4. GIVE THE GIFT OF YOUR TIME OR SKILLS. Offer to babysit for your sibling or best friend so they can have a night out without the extra expense of a babysitter. If you have a skill (decorating, painting, working with electricity or computers), offer your services in lieu of a physical gift. Last year my brother-in-law gave us the gift of installing new light fixtures for us. I wonder if there is an expiration date on that???
5. SKIP THE GIFTS ALL TOGETHER: This one is hard to do, especially if kids are involved. I'll admit, I love to open gifts, and love watching somebody open what I hope is the perfect gift that I have found for them. But, it does get expensive. And, you sometimes end up with duds. A few years ago, we decided with my husband's siblings that we wouldn't exchange gifts among the siblings any longer. It saves us time and money, and puts the focus more on the kids than the adults. It's worked really well for us, but certainly isn't the right option for everybody.
Happy non-gift giving this year!
Until next time...
Missy
Render-Bits is written by Missy Render, owner of Render Lifestyle Management, a Twin Cities based personal concierge and errand running service, specializing in helping you create more balance between what you want to do, and what you have to do.
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Monday, November 22, 2010
Thursday, November 11, 2010
The Running Christmas List
Yes, it's that time of year again. And no, this does not mean everything on my Christmas wish list is related to running.
Has your mother/spouse/child asked you yet, "What do you want for Christmas?" If not, it won't be long before they do. Will you have your answers ready? Better yet, will those around you have their list ready when you ask them what they want?
My answer is the Running, or Cumulative, Christmas List. I keep a sheet of paper in the kitchen, and throughout the year jot down ideas as they come to me, or as those I give gifts to make comments about what they wish they had. It's how I know this year my husband's grandmother is getting a really awesome wine bottle opener like ours. She thought ours was so cool last year, and now I don't have to give a second thought to what to get her.
I also try to keep a running list of what I want but never bother to buy for myself. My family isn't quite as helpful in giving me their lists.
There are two AWESOME benefits to the running list. 1) You don't have to try to come up with last minute gifts and just hope the recipient will love them. 2) when you know ahead of time what you are getting each person on your list, you can plan your holiday spending wisely. You can look through ads to and buy when the item is on sale, or spread out the buying months so that you pay for everthing right away an aren't stuck with a mondo credit card bill in January. Most years my goal is to get the majority of my Christmas shopping done by Halloween. This year, that is definitely NOT happening, but it's nice to have a goal (as opposed to my husband, who before I came along was a Christmas Eve shopper!!).
If you are currently trying to assemle the wishes of all those you give to, here's another idea. If you will be with family for Thanksgiving, let them know NOW that you hope to collect ideas when you are together for the holiday. It gives them lead time to think about their own wish list. And, you should be prepared with yours as well.
If you have a lot of kids you buy gifts for, consider bringing all the Sunday ads with you to Thanksgiving (Target, Toys R US, etc.). Assign each kid to a different colored crayon, and let them circle all the things they want (be prepared for them to circle everything). Then review options with parents, and be sure to get current clothes and shoe sizes.
Finally, if you really want to get your point across, you can adopt my niece's approach. Last year she put together a three-ring binder with all of her wishes. She included printouts from websites that showed the store, item, price, color and size of everything she wanted. Do you think she might take after her Auntie?? Her specificity paid off. We knew exactly what she wanted, it took the guess work out of buying for her, we could look for sale prices because we had time to make the purchases, AND she got exactly what she wanted. What a lucky girl.
Happy Listing!
Until next time...
Missy
Has your mother/spouse/child asked you yet, "What do you want for Christmas?" If not, it won't be long before they do. Will you have your answers ready? Better yet, will those around you have their list ready when you ask them what they want?
My answer is the Running, or Cumulative, Christmas List. I keep a sheet of paper in the kitchen, and throughout the year jot down ideas as they come to me, or as those I give gifts to make comments about what they wish they had. It's how I know this year my husband's grandmother is getting a really awesome wine bottle opener like ours. She thought ours was so cool last year, and now I don't have to give a second thought to what to get her.
I also try to keep a running list of what I want but never bother to buy for myself. My family isn't quite as helpful in giving me their lists.
There are two AWESOME benefits to the running list. 1) You don't have to try to come up with last minute gifts and just hope the recipient will love them. 2) when you know ahead of time what you are getting each person on your list, you can plan your holiday spending wisely. You can look through ads to and buy when the item is on sale, or spread out the buying months so that you pay for everthing right away an aren't stuck with a mondo credit card bill in January. Most years my goal is to get the majority of my Christmas shopping done by Halloween. This year, that is definitely NOT happening, but it's nice to have a goal (as opposed to my husband, who before I came along was a Christmas Eve shopper!!).
If you are currently trying to assemle the wishes of all those you give to, here's another idea. If you will be with family for Thanksgiving, let them know NOW that you hope to collect ideas when you are together for the holiday. It gives them lead time to think about their own wish list. And, you should be prepared with yours as well.
If you have a lot of kids you buy gifts for, consider bringing all the Sunday ads with you to Thanksgiving (Target, Toys R US, etc.). Assign each kid to a different colored crayon, and let them circle all the things they want (be prepared for them to circle everything). Then review options with parents, and be sure to get current clothes and shoe sizes.
Finally, if you really want to get your point across, you can adopt my niece's approach. Last year she put together a three-ring binder with all of her wishes. She included printouts from websites that showed the store, item, price, color and size of everything she wanted. Do you think she might take after her Auntie?? Her specificity paid off. We knew exactly what she wanted, it took the guess work out of buying for her, we could look for sale prices because we had time to make the purchases, AND she got exactly what she wanted. What a lucky girl.
Happy Listing!
Until next time...
Missy
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